Pre marriage blues

This is a very light hearted blog about what has most recently happened in my life.

I still remember the day when the following dialog took place between my family & myself in December 2006. This must be common one that every girl would have come across.
Amma: (Really scared & quietly): Padhippu mudhinjaachu. Velayyam Kadhaichaachu

Me: (snapped back): So

Akka(from nowhere) : You also got to be a good girl like me & should settle down.

Me: Yeah I am. I have a job & am going to be well & will be well settled professionally. That’s it. (Still trying hard to pretend that I am not getting the point they focusing on.

(Now akka is really wild & hits straight to the point) Akka: Ok enough of it now. We just want you to get married.

Me: (Now that’s it, I have lost it & snapped back with lot of thimuru) Kalyanam laam pannikave mudhiyadhu. Rombho ippidi torture panninel na naan thirumbha India ve vara mathen. ( & left the scene)

Amma, appa, sis, tata & pati everyone staring behind the door that I just slammed.

All this took place during the winter break when I had gone to India for a month. I just had one semester to go & was to start working immediately after graduation.

I thought this dose would be enough to keep the marriage topic away from me but can you imagine, less than 3 months after this happened & one fine day a stranger calls me. I have very little background about what’s happening back home but I am very cleverly not included completely in the loop so that I do not damage the situation in the very beginning. Everything is so well planned. From this stranger I know that he could be a prospective life partner. & I am boiling here from inside, but not want to hurt this stranger who was not exactly at fault spoke to him under compulsion. Yes we did have a brief phone chat which just lasted a little longer than 2 hours just for me to be told later by this nice stranger that I talk too much.

Till a day back, I have very strongly maintained no marriage, no relationship, no commitment for now. Very strongly. Though No reasons for this as such. But can you beat this. It took me less than 10 days to say “Yes, I am ready to marry you nice stranger L ! “ I don’t believe this myself. Maybe the stranger turned out to be really too good to be missed J

But I was very clear about when I want to get married again for no rime or reason. But when you have amma, appa, tata, pati & a akka & athimber like the ones I have then no matter how hard you scream from the roof tops everything very religiously falls into deaf years. & here I am married in less than a year. Yes of course I am very very happy. But what I am emphasizing here is, agar hum sher tho woh sava sher & you cannot handle when you have a dozen sava shers at home J . No matter what you do, what you plan, parents always have their way J. They way tooo smart than you actually can even imagine. Amma appa, you guys win hands down.